If you are gay, lesbian, bisexual, fluid, pansexual, queer-identified, transgender, genderqueer . . .
This information was liberally adapted from the holiday guide compiled by the good people at PFLAG (Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays)
Realize that your family’s reaction to you may not be because you are LGBT, (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual/Pansexual, Transgender/Genderqueer). The hectic holiday pace may cause family members to act differently than they would under less stressful conditions.
Remember that “coming out” is a continuous process. You may have to “come out” many times.
Don’t wait for your family’s attitude to change to have a special holiday.
Recognize that your parents need time to acknowledge and accept that they have a LGBT child. It took you time to come to terms with who you are; now it is your family’s turn. Let your family’s judgments be theirs to work on, as long as they are kind to you.
If you are transgender, be gentle with your family’s pronoun “slips.” Let them know you know how difficult it is.
Before the visit . . .
Make a decision about being “out” to each family member before you visit.
If you are partnered . . .
Discuss in advance how you will talk about your relationship, or show affection with one another, if you plan to make the visit together.
If you bring your partner home, don’t wait until late into the holiday evening to raise the issue of sleeping arrangements. Make plans in advance. Have alternate plans if the situation becomes difficult at home.
During the visit . . .
Focus on common interests. Reassure family members that you are still the same
If you are partnered, be sensitive to his or her needs as well as your own. Be wary of the possible desire to shock your family.
Remember to affirm yourself. Realize that you don’t need your family’s approval.
Connect with someone else who is LGBT — by phone or in person — who understands what you are going through and will affirm you along the way.
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